A Discussion of Atlas of the Heart with Beth Shaha, Part 5
Sandy and Certified Master Life Coach, Beth Shaha continue the discussion of Atlas of The Heart by Brene Brown. This discussion addresses key points of the final chapters including the need for belonging, showing up and being your true self, and cultivating meaningful connections.
00:00 Sandy opens the show by re-introducing the author, Brene Brown, and her book Atlas of the Heart
1:58 Beth Shaha discusses an instance of positive influence based on the theme of Chapter 9, belonging
7:29 Sandy shifts the discussion to Chapter 10: When Our Hearts Are Open, focusing on family dynamics and integrity in communication
13:38 Quick anecdotes on self-betrayal
18:23 Sandy quotes Brene Brown: “One of the bravest things you could say to someone is, “that hurt my feelings.’”
20:29 Beth discusses the concept of ‘flooding’, a product of being deeply blended with an emotion, and how important it is to disarm yourself when this occurs
25:28 “Ask yourself, do I have enough information to freak out?”
27:27 Sandy opens up a quick discussion on intentionality
29:19 Beth shifts the topic to Chapter 11 – the balance between contentment and satisfaction
33:54 The discussion moves onto Chapter 12: Places We Go When We Feel Wronged and Chapter 13: Places We Go To Self Assess – pride vs. hubris
37:11 Beth and Sandy summarize the final chapters of the book highlighting the fact that emotional intelligence rests within our bodies, not just the mind
41:21 Sandy shares a sweet anecdote about how she connected with a new neighbor
44:48 Sandy and Beth close the series with wise words from Brene Brown’s mother – “Don’t look away, don’t look down, don’t pretend not to see hurt. Look people in the eye, even when the pain is overwhelming; and when you’re hurting and in pain, find the people who can look you in the eye.”
Life After The Military: Dr. Crystal Redding
Crystal is a clinical psychologist who supported the Joint Special Operations Command, America’s premier counter-terrorism force.
Crystal is a clinical psychologist who supported the Joint Special Operations Command, America’s premier counter-terrorism force.
This episode focuses on how Dr. Redding:
-Treats super highly skilled service members.
-Likens the journey of working with a therapist as a “sherpa”, helping humans climb the mountain to achieve mental wellness and fitness
-Discusses stigmas surrounding therapy for service-members, noting that the history of therapy includes labeling people
-Shares her view of modern view of psychology which must focus on help with everyday life and tasks
-That the first 3 years out of the military have the highest rates of suicide
-She describes the story of a military sniper who needed help with anxiety – how the sniper already knew how to use breathing queues due to their training, and how that was utilized in their diagnosis
-“Its ok to say, I need someone to have my six on this”
-“Leadership is key” – Dr. Redding explains how great leadership can assist healthcare providers by providing confidential recommendations and pushing service members to get help without fear of consequences
00:00 Lee introduces the audience to Dr. Crystal Redding
3:28 Dr. Redding describes her experience as a clinical psychologist for the Joint Special Operations Command
6:27 Dr. Redding talks about the stigmas surrounding therapy and gives a brilliant analogy of therapy and mountain climbing
10:21 Howie explains the Joint Special Operations Command, America’s premier counter-terrorism force, giving context to Dr. Redding’s experience as a psychologist
12:20 Dr. Redding details her process for helping a soldier with their mental fitness
19:42 Howie and Lee get real about Howie’s experiences with mental health challenges
23:58 Dr. Redding addresses the serious confidentiality concerns of service members
32:18 Howie asks Dr. Redding – how can veterans take care of themselves?
33:45 Dr. Redding discusses how military skills can be translated and applied as healing tactics
37:45 Howie discusses how transitioning veterans sometimes don’t seek help
41:14 The conversation shifts to the incredibly important issue of problematic veteran transitions and its relation to veteran suicides
49:58 The ebbs and flows of mental fitness
55:12 Lee gives Dr. Redding her prospective book title and asks the final question
1:09:00 Dr. Redding tells us how she flexes her mental fitness by having clear boundaries
1:06:50 Show closing
Championship Traits For Life - Kevin Weekes
Growing up – we all dream of being pro athletes at some point. We all dream of making a heroic last second play or reaching memorable milestones on our chosen field of sport. As we get older, we realize that making an impact in the game isn’t limited to just accomplishing the dreams of our youth. This week’s guest has and continues to impact the game on a daily level both on and off the ice.
Kevin Weekes played over 350 games in the NHL between the pipes as a goaltender. Following his playing career, Kevin became a trailblazer in business (most notably with his company NO5HOLE), and in broadcasting – where he currently serves as an analyst for the NHL on ESPN and the NHL Network.
But beyond business and broadcasting, Kevin has been an inspiration to countless individuals as someone who not only wants to have a positive impact on the game we love, but more importantly – the people surrounding the game.
Life After The Military: Tim Cochrane, former Marine Corps Electronics Technician
In this week’s Pivotal Moments Media Charlie Mike Channel episode of Life After the Military, meet former Marine Tim Cochrane!
Tim discusses his life’s journey from the floor of the New York Stock Exchange as an electronics technician to American Corporate Partners (ACP), a national nonprofit organization focused on helping returning veterans find their next career through one-on-one mentoring, networking and online career advice and his current work with Tenova, LLC and Hire Military.
Howie, Lee and Tim discuss the following:
- A deep dive on the negative environmental factors surrounding veteran suicide
- Discussion of Tim’s phenomenal work with HireMilitary
- Discussion on building grit and determination through overcoming adversity
- The beginnings of the ACP
Social Media:
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/timothy-cochrane977/
Facebook/Meta: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100072230057762
Twitter: https://twitter.com/TimCochrane1
HireMilitary: https://hiremilitary.us/
Tenova LLC: https://www.tenovallc.com/
American Corporate Partners: https://www.acp-usa.org/
00:00 Lee introduces Tim to the Pivotal Moments Media audience
2:38 Tim talks about his experience transitioning out of the Marines to the New York Stock Exchange as a technician in the 80’s
6:07 Howie mentions American Corporate Partners (ACP), an organization that mentors transitioning veterans for the corporate world
11:13 Tim describes his journey from the New York Stock Exchange to present
16:04 Lee quotes David Goggins, “don’t stop when you’re tired, stop when you’re done”
19:56 A discussion on grit and responsibility
25:51 Tim tells the audience how ACP started, and how the org works to help transitioning veterans
33:21 The discussion shifts to the incredible importance of finding purpose and value in daily work
37:25 Howie and Tim get real about veteran suicide
51:08 Tim talks about his business history in NYC and how he built a tailored strategic retention system for veterans within ACP
1:02:23 Howie discusses the current landscape of veteran transitions
1:07:51 Lee gives Tim the title for his book
1:10:04 Tim tells the audience how he flexes his mental fitness
A Conversation with Auti
Award winning singer/songwriter and PMM Artist/Brand Ambassador Auti Gillispie shares with us her journey as an emerging artist and how she uses her music platform to drive awareness around suicide prevention and to promote anti-bullying campaigns.
Auti reveals the story that drove her to become a mental health advocate and the message she wants to share through her music. In this episode, our listeners will be truly inspired by the courage and mission of this incredible young woman.
00:00 Auti explains how she got involved in mental health advocacy
4:09 Auti and Sandy discuss Auti’s personal and artistic influences, and how they contribute to her personal wellness
10:27 Auti tells the story of how her fanbase began with a viral video
14:18 Auti discusses how spending time in nature allows her to separate herself from the music for a mental break
18:26 Auti details how her musicianship has developed throughout the years on piano
22:01 Auti tell us what she wants people to get from her music
23:18 The discussion switches to Auti’s partnership with Pivotal Moments Media, and her future endeavors
27:00 Sandy asks, “what’s one piece of advice that really drives you?”
28:43 Auti thanks the audience
Creating Gateways Through Self Awareness - Part 2
“Ask those emotions, before you push away, what is this trying to tell me?” We are back with Miki Goerdt, clinical social worker, board-certified art therapist and owner of Emerald Leaf Counseling LLC! In part two of this conversation, Miki dives further into the subject of self-awareness and how it helps to guide our choices.
She also discusses the impact of culture, the importance of understanding the messages tucked into our emotions and why we may need to refrain from always having to define where we are on the mental wellness continuum. Plus, we can’t forget about art! As an accomplished artist, Miki shares the benefits of a regular art-inspired regimen.
GUESTS SOCIAL MEDIA LINKS:
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/miki-goerdt-a61808157
Personal Website: https://www.mikigoerdt.com/
Emerald Leaf Counseling Website: https://www.emeraldleafcc.com/
00:00 Jenn jumps right into Part 2, beginning the show with a very important question for Miki
06:16 Jenn and Miki discuss how culture affects human relation
09:12 Miki discusses how self awareness can lend power to making choices
12:26 Miki tells us why the term “mental fitness” may be inappropriate
20:14 Miki reminds us that we may not always need to define how we feel or where we are on the mental wellness continuum
22:32 Jenn and Miki discuss how a regular art practice regimen assists with her personal self-awareness
25:51 Miki reminds the audience, “each emotion has a message for you”
QUOTES MENTIONED:
“…become self-aware of the function of guilt and shame.” – M
“None of us, as a person, are actually detached from the environment we are surrounded by.” – M
“I think that it’s really important to be attached to your culture.” – J
“To make a choice is empowering.” – M
“I happen to think, emotions [can’t] become people.” – M
“You are here, and emotions are actually not you – it’s just something here that you have.” – M
“You can be attached to that anxious person you were, but it doesn’t mean that you have to be anxious your whole life. You have choices.”
“Resiliency, in my book, is defined as pain transformed into strength.” – M
“Mental wellness and resiliency come from collectivistic places for me, and for many of the people who are from marginalized communities.” – M
“In therapy sessions, the power is in the client’s hands to decide.” – M
“Each emotion has a message for you.” – M
“Ask those emotions, before you push away, what is this trying to tell me?” – M
BOOKS MENTIONED:
Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help YouFind – and Keep – Love by Amir Levin
https://www.amazon.com/Amir-Levine/e/B003XYKDYS/ref=dp_byline_cont_pop_book_1
Championship Traits For Life - Christopher Lee
Our guest today, Christopher Lee has more than 25 years of experience in political consulting, campaign management, Communications, and developing marking materials for candidates, national political party committees, and labor organizations.
Chris is a partner with Foresight Strategic and is an expert in political strategy, issue advocacy, and media relations and has worked with top government officials, businesses, and teams around the country.
Life After the Military: LTC (Retired) Ken Patterson
Listen to this awesome new Life After the Military episode with our good friend and exceptional leader, LTC (Ret) Ken Patterson, if you want to have a low stress, high success transition to the private sector.
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Listen to this awesome new Life After the Military episode with our good friend and exceptional leader, LTC (Ret) Ken Patterson, if you want to have a low stress, high success transition to the private sector.
Ken shares some absolute gold nuggets for all transitioning veterans.
Learn how Ken did the following:
- Made his transition planning a part-time job!
- Created a plan – just like a strategic military operation – with specified and implied tasks!
- Took the time to educate himself to figure out what he wanted to do and where he want to do it!
- How he answered two really tough interview questions and absolutely nailed them to the wall!
- Conceptualized and built his own highly successful medical consulting business!
If you watch/listen to this episode and apply the lessons learned from Ken Patterson, you will be well on your way to a highly successful and very low stress transition!
00:00 Introduction to Ken Patterson
2:38 Ken discusses his experience with transitioning to the private sector after 21 years of military service, focusing on his use of professional resume-writers
11:11 Ken details the primary tasks he focused on while preparing for this transition – updating his resume, creating a planned strategy for his transition, and educating himself
18:25 The discussion shifts to the extreme importance of doing the work to have a smooth transition
21:40 Ken and Howie respond to Lee’s question – what was the mental process behind your extreme focus and successful transition?
27:04 Howie discusses how ego can negatively influence a veteran’s mindstate when preparing for transition
33:45 Ken tells the story of how his career in the private sector began through a series of extremely memorable interviews
35:42 Ken’s gift of making strong connections leads to award-winning success within the first few years of landing the role
52:26 Ken tells the audience about his motivations for starting his company, True North Advantage, what it took to get started, and where it’s headed
1:03 Lee hilariously names Ken’s future biography
1:05 Ken explains how keeping a consistent schedule, spending time with loved ones, mentoring and journaling all contribute to how he flexes his mental fitness
1:11 Lee closes the show
A Discussion of Atlas of the Heart with Beth Shaha, Part 4
Sandy and Certified Master Life Coach, Beth Shaha continue the discussion of Atlas of The Heart by Brene Brown.
This discussion focuses on what you feel when you start to compare yourself to others and how it can impact your mental fitness.
00:00 Introduction to Brene Brown and the book
1:52 Sandy opens with Brene Brown’s list of 87 emotions and experiences
5:20 The discussion centers on Chapter 7: “Places We Go With Others”, noting the key feelings compassion, empathy, pity, and sympathy
7:37 Beth chimes in on what’s missing when we relate to each other emotionally, “being curious about the backstory”
12:44 Sandy and Beth discuss helping others in a healthy manner
16:20 Beth and Sandy discuss the limits of human perspective, leading into a deep discussion on boundaries
27:11 “Places We Go When We Fall Short” – guilt, shame, perfectionism, embarrassment, humiliation to self compassion
28:36 Beth and Sandy discuss their thinking around guilt and shame
36:13 Sandy reads an excerpt from the book, prompting a shift to the topic of perfectionism and how it can be harmful
41:14 Beth and Sandy discusses Chapter 9: “Places We Go When We Search For Connection”
47:22 Beth implores the audience to care about the wellbeing of others
53:40 Beth and Sandy close the show
WIN: Championship Traits For Life - Mark Rypien
Championship moments are often frozen in time via photos, video and achievement. However, they are just a moment. The road leading up to and the road after those moments are often filled with adversity, controversy and sacrifice. This week’s guest, 2x Super Bowl champion and MVP Mark Rypien has traveled both roads with grace and class.
Mark is a two-time Super Bowl Champion and the MVP of Super Bowl 26 with Washington Redskins. Those accolades are accompanied with an illustrious career in the NFL and with his philanthropic work in his post-playing career.
