A Discussion of Atlas of the Heart with Beth Shaha, Part 5

Sandy and Certified Master Life Coach, Beth Shaha continue the discussion of Atlas of The Heart by Brene Brown. This discussion addresses key points of the final chapters including the need for belonging, showing up and being your true self, and cultivating meaningful connections.

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Show Notes

00:00 Sandy opens the show by re-introducing the author, Brene Brown, and her book Atlas of the Heart

1:58 Beth Shaha discusses an instance of positive influence based on the theme of Chapter 9, belonging

7:29 Sandy shifts the discussion to Chapter 10: When Our Hearts Are Open, focusing on family dynamics and integrity in communication

13:38 Quick anecdotes on self-betrayal

18:23 Sandy quotes Brene Brown:  “One of the bravest things you could say to someone is, “that hurt my feelings.’”

20:29 Beth discusses the concept of ‘flooding’, a product of being deeply blended with an emotion, and how important it is to disarm yourself when this occurs

25:28 “Ask yourself, do I have enough information to freak out?”

27:27 Sandy opens up a quick discussion on intentionality

29:19 Beth shifts the topic to Chapter 11 – the balance between contentment and satisfaction

33:54 The discussion moves onto Chapter 12: Places We Go When We Feel Wronged and Chapter 13: Places We Go To Self Assess – pride vs. hubris

37:11 Beth and Sandy summarize the final chapters of the book highlighting the fact that emotional intelligence rests within our bodies, not just the mind

41:21 Sandy shares a sweet anecdote about how she connected with a new neighbor

44:48 Sandy and Beth close the series with wise words from Brene Brown’s mother – “Don’t look away, don’t look down, don’t pretend not to see hurt. Look people in the eye, even when the pain is overwhelming; and when you’re hurting and in pain, find the people who can look you in the eye.”

Life After The Military: Dr. Crystal Redding

Crystal is a clinical psychologist who supported the Joint Special Operations Command, America’s premier counter-terrorism force.

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Crystal is a clinical psychologist who supported the Joint Special Operations Command, America’s premier counter-terrorism force.

This episode focuses on how Dr. Redding:

-Treats super highly skilled service members.

-Likens the journey of working with a therapist as a “sherpa”, helping humans climb the mountain to achieve mental wellness and fitness

-Discusses stigmas surrounding therapy for service-members, noting that the history of therapy includes labeling people

-Shares her view of modern view of psychology which must focus on help with everyday life and tasks

-That the first 3 years out of the military have the highest rates of suicide

-She describes the story of a military sniper who needed help with anxiety – how the sniper already knew how to use breathing queues due to their training, and how that was utilized in their diagnosis

-“Its ok to say, I need someone to have my six on this”

-“Leadership is key” – Dr. Redding explains how great leadership can assist healthcare providers by providing confidential recommendations and pushing service members to get help without fear of consequences


Show notes

00:00 Lee introduces the audience to Dr. Crystal Redding

3:28 Dr. Redding describes her experience as a clinical psychologist for the Joint Special Operations Command

6:27 Dr. Redding talks about the stigmas surrounding therapy and gives a brilliant analogy of therapy and mountain climbing

10:21 Howie explains the Joint Special Operations Command, America’s premier counter-terrorism force, giving context to Dr. Redding’s experience as a psychologist

12:20 Dr. Redding details her process for helping a soldier with their mental fitness

19:42 Howie and Lee get real about Howie’s experiences with mental health challenges

23:58 Dr. Redding addresses the serious confidentiality concerns of service members

32:18 Howie asks Dr. Redding – how can veterans take care of themselves?

33:45 Dr. Redding discusses how military skills can be translated and applied as healing tactics

37:45 Howie discusses how transitioning veterans sometimes don’t seek help

41:14 The conversation shifts to the incredibly important issue of problematic veteran transitions and its relation to veteran suicides

49:58 The ebbs and flows of mental fitness

55:12 Lee gives Dr. Redding her prospective book title and asks the final question

1:09:00 Dr. Redding tells us how she flexes her mental fitness by having clear boundaries

1:06:50 Show closing

Championship Traits For Life - Kevin Weekes

Growing up – we all dream of being pro athletes at some point. We all dream of making a heroic last second play or reaching memorable milestones on our chosen field of sport. As we get older, we realize that making an impact in the game isn’t limited to just accomplishing the dreams of our youth. This week’s guest has and continues to impact the game on a daily level both on and off the ice.

Kevin Weekes played over 350 games in the NHL between the pipes as a goaltender. Following his playing career, Kevin became a trailblazer in business (most notably with his company NO5HOLE), and in broadcasting – where he currently serves as an analyst for the NHL on ESPN and the NHL Network.

But beyond business and broadcasting, Kevin has been an inspiration to countless individuals as someone who not only wants to have a positive impact on the game we love, but more importantly – the people surrounding the game.

Life After The Military: Tim Cochrane, former Marine Corps Electronics Technician

In this week’s Pivotal Moments Media Charlie Mike Channel episode of Life After the Military, meet former Marine Tim Cochrane!

Tim discusses his life’s journey from the floor of the New York Stock Exchange as an electronics technician to American Corporate Partners (ACP), a national nonprofit organization focused on helping returning veterans find their next career through one-on-one mentoring, networking and online career advice and his current work with Tenova, LLC and Hire Military.

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Howie, Lee and Tim discuss the following:

  • A deep dive on the negative environmental factors surrounding veteran suicide
  • Discussion of Tim’s phenomenal work with HireMilitary
  • Discussion on building grit and determination through overcoming adversity
  • The beginnings of the ACP


Social Media:

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/timothy-cochrane977/

Facebook/Meta: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100072230057762

Twitter: https://twitter.com/TimCochrane1

HireMilitary: https://hiremilitary.us/

Tenova LLC: https://www.tenovallc.com/

American Corporate Partners: https://www.acp-usa.org/


Show notes

00:00 Lee introduces Tim to the Pivotal Moments Media audience

2:38 Tim talks about his experience transitioning out of the Marines to the New York Stock Exchange as a technician in the 80’s

6:07 Howie mentions American Corporate Partners (ACP), an organization that mentors transitioning veterans for the corporate world

11:13 Tim describes his journey from the New York Stock Exchange to present

16:04 Lee quotes David Goggins, “don’t stop when you’re tired, stop when you’re done”

19:56 A discussion on grit and responsibility

25:51 Tim tells the audience how ACP started, and how the org works to help transitioning veterans

33:21 The discussion shifts to the incredible importance of finding purpose and value in daily work

37:25 Howie and Tim get real about veteran suicide

51:08 Tim talks about his business history in NYC and how he built a tailored strategic retention system for veterans within ACP

1:02:23 Howie discusses the current landscape of veteran transitions

1:07:51 Lee gives Tim the title for his book

1:10:04 Tim tells the audience how he flexes his mental fitness

A Conversation with Auti

Award winning singer/songwriter and PMM Artist/Brand Ambassador Auti Gillispie shares with us her journey as an emerging artist and how she uses her music platform to drive awareness around suicide prevention and to promote anti-bullying campaigns.

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Auti reveals the story that drove her to become a mental health advocate and the message she wants to share through her music. In this episode, our listeners will be truly inspired by the courage and mission of this incredible young woman.


Show Notes

00:00 Auti explains how she got involved in mental health advocacy

4:09 Auti and Sandy discuss Auti’s personal and artistic influences, and how they contribute to her personal wellness

10:27 Auti tells the story of how her fanbase began with a viral video

14:18 Auti discusses how spending time in nature allows her to separate herself from the music for a mental break

18:26 Auti details how her musicianship has developed throughout the years on piano

22:01 Auti tell us what she wants people to get from her music

23:18 The discussion switches to Auti’s partnership with Pivotal Moments Media, and her future endeavors

27:00 Sandy asks, “what’s one piece of advice that really drives you?”

28:43 Auti thanks the audience

Creating Gateways Through Self Awareness - Part 2

“Ask those emotions, before you push away, what is this trying to tell me?” We are back with Miki Goerdt, clinical social worker, board-certified art therapist and owner of Emerald Leaf Counseling LLC! In part two of this conversation, Miki dives further into the subject of self-awareness and how it helps to guide our choices.

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She also discusses the impact of culture, the importance of understanding the messages tucked into our emotions and why we may need to refrain from always having to define where we are on the mental wellness continuum. Plus, we can’t forget about art! As an accomplished artist, Miki shares the benefits of a regular art-inspired regimen.



LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/miki-goerdt-a61808157 

Personal Website: https://www.mikigoerdt.com/ 

Emerald Leaf Counseling Website: https://www.emeraldleafcc.com/


Show notes:

00:00 Jenn jumps right into Part 2, beginning the show with a very important question for Miki

06:16 Jenn and Miki discuss how culture affects human relation

09:12 Miki discusses how self awareness can lend power to making choices

12:26 Miki tells us why the term “mental fitness” may be inappropriate

20:14 Miki reminds us that we may not always need to define how we feel or where we are on the mental wellness continuum

22:32 Jenn and Miki discuss how a regular art practice regimen assists with her personal self-awareness

25:51 Miki reminds the audience, “each emotion has a message for you”



“…become self-aware of the function of guilt and shame.” – M

“None of us, as a person, are actually detached from the environment we are surrounded by.” – M

“I think that it’s really important to be attached to your culture.” – J

“To make a choice is empowering.” – M

“I happen to think, emotions [can’t] become people.” – M

“You are here, and emotions are actually not you – it’s just something here that you have.” – M

“You can be attached to that anxious person you were, but it doesn’t mean that you have to be anxious your whole life. You have choices.”

“Resiliency, in my book, is defined as pain transformed into strength.” – M

“Mental wellness and resiliency come from collectivistic places for me, and for many of the people who are from marginalized communities.” – M

“In therapy sessions, the power is in the client’s hands to decide.” – M

“Each emotion has a message for you.” – M

“Ask those emotions, before you push away, what is this trying to tell me?” – M



Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help YouFind – and Keep – Love by Amir Levin


Championship Traits For Life - Christopher Lee

Our guest today, Christopher Lee has more than 25 years of experience in political consulting, campaign management, Communications, and developing marking materials for candidates, national political party committees, and labor organizations.

Chris is a partner with Foresight Strategic and is an expert in political strategy, issue advocacy, and media relations and has worked with top government officials, businesses, and teams around the country.

Life After the Military: LTC (Retired) Ken Patterson

Listen to this awesome new Life After the Military episode with our good friend and exceptional leader, LTC (Ret) Ken Patterson, if you want to have a low stress, high success transition to the private sector.

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Listen to this awesome new Life After the Military episode with our good friend and exceptional leader, LTC (Ret) Ken Patterson, if you want to have a low stress, high success transition to the private sector.

Ken shares some absolute gold nuggets for all transitioning veterans.

Learn how Ken did the following:

  • Made his transition planning a part-time job!
  • Created a plan – just like a strategic military operation – with specified and implied tasks!
  • Took the time to educate himself to figure out what he wanted to do and where he want to do it!
  • How he answered two really tough interview questions and absolutely nailed them to the wall!
  • Conceptualized and built his own highly successful medical consulting business!

If you watch/listen to this episode and apply the lessons learned from Ken Patterson, you will be well on your way to a highly successful and very low stress transition!

Show notes

00:00 Introduction to Ken Patterson

2:38 Ken discusses his experience with transitioning to the private sector after 21 years of military service, focusing on his use of professional resume-writers

11:11 Ken details the primary tasks he focused on while preparing for this transition – updating his resume, creating a planned strategy for his transition, and educating himself

18:25 The discussion shifts to the extreme importance of doing the work to have a smooth transition

21:40 Ken and Howie respond to Lee’s question – what was the mental process behind your extreme focus and successful transition?

27:04 Howie discusses how ego can negatively influence a veteran’s mindstate when preparing for transition

33:45 Ken tells the story of how his career in the private sector began through a series of extremely memorable interviews

35:42 Ken’s gift of making strong connections leads to award-winning success within the first few years of landing the role

52:26 Ken tells the audience about his motivations for starting his company, True North Advantage, what it took to get started, and where it’s headed

1:03 Lee hilariously names Ken’s future biography

1:05 Ken explains how keeping a consistent schedule, spending time with loved ones, mentoring and journaling all contribute to how he flexes his mental fitness

1:11 Lee closes the show

A Discussion of Atlas of the Heart with Beth Shaha, Part 4

Sandy and Certified Master Life Coach, Beth Shaha continue the discussion of Atlas of The Heart by Brene Brown.

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This discussion focuses on what you feel when you start to compare yourself to others and how it can impact your mental fitness.


Show Notes:

00:00 Introduction to Brene Brown and the book

1:52 Sandy opens with Brene Brown’s list of 87 emotions and experiences

5:20 The discussion centers on Chapter 7: “Places We Go With Others”, noting the key feelings compassion, empathy, pity, and sympathy

7:37 Beth chimes in on what’s missing when we relate to each other emotionally, “being curious about the backstory”

12:44 Sandy and Beth discuss helping others in a healthy manner

16:20 Beth and Sandy discuss the limits of human perspective, leading into a deep discussion on boundaries

27:11 “Places We Go When We Fall Short” – guilt, shame, perfectionism, embarrassment, humiliation to self compassion

28:36 Beth and Sandy discuss their thinking around guilt and shame

36:13 Sandy reads an excerpt from the book, prompting a shift to the topic of perfectionism and how it can be harmful

41:14 Beth and Sandy discusses Chapter 9: “Places We Go When We Search For Connection”

47:22 Beth implores the audience to care about the wellbeing of others

53:40 Beth and Sandy close the show

WIN: Championship Traits For Life - Mark Rypien

Championship moments are often frozen in time via photos, video and achievement. However, they are just a moment. The road leading up to and the road after those moments are often filled with adversity, controversy and sacrifice. This week’s guest, 2x Super Bowl champion and MVP Mark Rypien has traveled both roads with grace and class.

Mark is a two-time Super Bowl Champion and the MVP of Super Bowl 26 with Washington Redskins. Those accolades are accompanied with an illustrious career in the NFL and with his philanthropic work in his post-playing career.

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